"That lady" has a user name. It is @Bama Chick.
Since the thread is already somewhat derailed, and to bring it full circle back to what started it down this path, consider that the thankfully removed picture/meme was being used just one month after a Senate candidate spent ten times ($45,000) the amount of an original campaign ad (between $3000-3500) running an ad in which she visibly darkened the face of her opponent. That is fact, and was not only reported by left leaning agencies.
As @Bama Chick commented, using race and gender as a weapon against their own 'demographic' but playing it off as a joke is ill-advised.
But since Jesse Smollett was brought up specifically; let's go there. I don't recall all of the conversations on Surly surrounding the event, but Smollett was essentially charged with 16 counts (2019) which were dropped, and then in 2020 was recharged with 6 counts of disorderly conduct and as of now is awaiting trial. The pandemic has slowed adjudication so it may be awhile before this is resolved. Based on the recommendation of the Office of the Special Prosecutor, the grand jury charged Smollett with making false reports to the CPD, etc. I won't go into that further, but the former US Attorney in charge of the investigation said that the "prosecution is in the interest of justice."
So, Smollett is going to stand trial and face the justice system.
Consider now the former President, Josh Hawley, Ted Cruz, et al who spent time both before (Trump) and after (everyone) the general election on a concerted effort to promote a false conspiracy, rally around this conspiracy, and then foment events with the objective of stopping the ratification of a certified election. Events which have led to death, injury, trauma, and property damage/repair in excess of a million dollars. The lost lives will be forever, hopefully the injuries will be overcome or heal to a certain degree. The property damage is brought up because it pales in comparison to the nationwide property damage (around 1 Billion estimated) with the exception of one teeny tiny thing: a democratic America with free and fair elections and the peaceful transfer of power is priceless. This was not peaceful and it came with a horrible horrible price.
Ocasio-Cortez has to return to work daily with the very people who encouraged, aided, and abetted this sedition. She hears them speak in the Chambers, over their social media accounts, in prime time. She receives the death threats on her VM, in her inbox, on the internet. And then once more, she walks the halls and tunnels with colleagues who seemed willing to support her being hunted and killed and when she raises objections, make light of her anxiety and alarm. She was not wrong about it mirroring an abusive situation and how society treats and views women's attitudes about it. Someone banging on the door saying 'police' (and in hindsight-- the number of police among the insurrectionists) many victims of domestic violence have had no way of certainty whether they were to be handed over to their abusers.
Anyone see Josh Hawley facing justice? Ted Cruz? Will the former President this week? No. The Big Lie and the coup attempt has always been the Big Lie and coup attempt, and sweeping it under the rug, gaslighting it, and having no REAL accountability foretells that America as a representative democracy is in its final moments.