hi.
for the record, I didn't send imma a message about any of this. I decided to dial back my participation by more than 99% because, well, this world is a shit show and I don't need to find refuge in an online version of it. The primary defense to being a raging asshole here is that we do it to everyone. That worked when I was, well like 28, but cruising toward 50 years old, that shit makes zero sense anymore.
You know what make sense to me? Realizing people on this board have real lives, with pressures, hurts, sorrows, unmet expectations, losses, real fucking losses, the kind that could make you wish you were dead. There are people trying to make it in a world where divorce has them reeling, where alcohol calls their name every day, where mental illness is unrelenting, where kids break their hearts with drug abuse and failing grades, where spouses cheat, where parents die, where jobs are lost and dreams are broken. The folks I want to be around now are those that are self-aware, authentic, struggling and trying their best to be kind people. those folks are here, but they are mixed in with people like some on this thread that just aren't my kind anymore.
I went on exactly one neg raid in 25 years and decided I'd had enough. I'm not going to nuke my persona here or permaban myself because truthfully there are actually people here that I care deeply about, even if I only know them on line. So without any message to imma I said my peace to my friends, I asked them to stay in touch, told them I would do the same, and I moved into the background where I will stay barring something that truly warrants my input. There's really nothing imma or anyone can do about it, too many people here think it's ok to make fun of others and I'm simply not down for that anymore.
So if you think I'm a whiny bitch, have at it. you do you bro. I'm simply not down for hate, whether in the form of a joke or otherwise, not for anyone.
be kind, have fun, the rest is background noise.