There’s some real incel vibes in here. Anyway, a few thoughts from my experiences living places ranging from “rough” to “really nice places but Americans are still interesting” for about 15 years. I am married and haven’t been trolling favelas or night-clubs for desperate barflies, so most of this comes from observation and talking to friends who are professionals/aspiring professional people. And a few unsolicited, unsubtle approaches from said professional-type friends and acquaintances.
When talking to friends’ wives or girlfriends and a few women— the interest in Americans is NOT your passport and the “take me to your cul-de-sac” paradise.
You know what comes up often? The way American men treat women and their families (some of this is from movies and they are also only meeting educated, expat type Americans). That Americans can talk to women without either condescending or blatantly hitting on them, and when they do flirt it’s not crude or heavy handed. American husbands spend less time out drinking, they play with kids, help at home, and make decisions jointly. They shower and take care of themselves.
American bosses treat women in the workplace respectfully, don’t tolerate harassment, encourage them to speak. A lot of this applies to the overseas English as well. The word “gentleman” comes up, but this is not doofus, fedora wearing m’lady shit. It’s “behave like women are your equal.”
So that’s what these dipshits need to know. That the long effort of getting men to act like decent humans led by feminists is what actually makes you attractive. It’s not your game or your passport.
Also, the phenomenon of dudes who are losers back home is well known, they’re mocked, and they are all just paying for play one way or another. There’s no hiding that.