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Edited by Neonmoon

I don't think this is an "official" video, but it suits the song.  One of Patty's greatest tunes.

 

"Forty years go by with someone lyin' in your bed

Forty years of things you say you wished you'd never said

How hard would it have been to say some kinder words instead?

I wonder as I stare up at the sky and turning red?"

(lyrics transcribed from a live performance, I think they're more telling than those on the recording)

 

 

Pearl Jam has always been great on the funeral/coping with death songs. They have several, these three resonate the most with me.  

Man of the Hour is an all-timer that I’ve instructed the misses to play on my behalf when she inevitably outlives me:

Light Years is about struggling to understand why a good person is just gone:

..and I recently came to the realization that the very melancholy sounding Parachutes is about counting down to the inevitable with a loved one:

 

 

Edited by Bender Bending Rodriguez

The Kübler-Ross model of the 5 stages of grief in musical form.

And not sure Brian Eno was thinking about death when he wrote this, but everyone wants it played at their funeral, so...

 

On 8/30/2019 at 10:03 PM, jimmyjazz said:

One of Patty's greatest tunes.

the very first thing I thought of when I saw the thread title

I'm not a "it gets dusty" type but even 17 years after hearing that song for the first time, it can still bring tears to my eyes

I'm not a fan of Death Cab For Cutie, but I think this is a pretty song. It makes me sad because the theme is death in an existence where there's no afterlife. 

 

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I'm not a fan of Death Cab For Cutie, but I think this is a pretty song. 

It's a fantastic song.  Good call.  I admire DCFC because the music has a consistent, unique twist.  It's something about the way Ben Gibbard writes melodies.  

 

I’ll add 2 more great PJ ones too

 

Edited by 4th&Five

Wings for marie -Tool

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Not sure this counts, beautiful song/voice either way. 

 

A deeper song about connecting and knowing the exact moment someone close to you dies. Piano and lyrics at 1:28 just fucking...break...my ...heart

 

 

Those Final Feet - Cowboy Junkies 

Flirted With You All My Life - Vic Chesnutt/covered by Cowboy Junkies

Yeah, that might be the ultimate song of this genre.

On 9/1/2019 at 6:58 PM, jimmyjazz said:

 

Came to post this song and after almost losing a family member to stage 4 cancer and then losing another one to cancer this song tears me up. I will see him live this weekend and torn on if I want to hear it. 

If you haven't heard of Dan Reeder you should check him out

 

Edited by Seger78
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I absolutely love Long Ride Home.

I found this EP on the back wall at Waterloo years ago, and it's sadly likely relegated to the dustbin of history (no youtube), but Median States by Quinimine is one of the most haunting tunes I've ever heard.

Spoiler

We're 5 misfits like a pile of mis-matched socks hobbling into H2T later in the day of 9/11 drunk with despair and disbelief to record our first record. In between the news on TV and weeping we lay down this frail and flawed Drone country toon. 

Taken from the Filaments EP, released by Grey Flat Records of Chicago. Recorded at Thee Mighty Hotel2Tango 2001 by Howard Bilerman

lyrics

When pontius spoke out loud, 
we'll run this ship aground 
and kiss you under crosses & nails 
forget about Mary's thunder 

we're mired in the torpor and bitter in the spring. 
Mary I feel weaker than just about everything 

Mary I feel so young 
as ambulance lights flash above me.... 

When Judas takes a lover 
we'll marry in the spring 
the scarlet whore of babylon 
and just about everything
credits
released January 1, 2002 
Words & Music by Gary Jansz

Likewise, it's hard to find, but Milton Mapes put out an album with two great farewell songs, Bowie AZ and Craters of the Moon, if you can find them out there.  Kinda strange to find one album with two songs I want played at my funeral.

 

And there's this.

On 8/30/2019 at 11:03 PM, jimmyjazz said:

I don't think this is an "official" video, but it suits the song.  One of Patty's greatest tunes.

 

"Forty years go by with someone lyin' in your bed

Forty years of things you say you wished you'd never said

How hard would it have been to say some kinder words instead?

I wonder as I stare up at the sky and turning red?"

(lyrics transcribed from a live performance, I think they're more telling than those on the recording)

 

 

Dammit.  Beat me to it.  

Three, maybe four deaths:  

 

And the chick version.

And good lord, Sheryl Crow is still just gorgeous.  

I don't think I've ever heard that gal Yola -- THAT'S a voice!

Long As I Can See The Light CCR
 
Put a candle in the window 
'Cause I feel I've gotta move
Though I'm goin', goin' 
I'll be comin' home soon 
Long as I can see the light
Pack my bag and let's get moving 
'Cause I'm bound to drift awhile
Though I'm gone, gone 
You don't have to worry 
Long as I can see the light
Guess I've got that old travelin' bone 
'Cause this feeling won't leave alone
But I won't, won't 
Be losin' my way 
Long as I can see the light
Yeah
Yeah
Yeah
Oh yeah
Put a candle in the window 
'Cause I 
 
This will be played at my funeral after my passing.
Source: LyricFind
 
 
 

 

Probably my all time fav in this genre.

Edited by Chad Fuck

Vince Gill is a national treasure.  Guitar virtuoso, one of the best voices in popular music of any genre, terrific songwriter, scratch golfer, and married to Amy Grant.

He started writing that tune about Keith Whitley but only finished it when his own brother passed.

I thought about posting from the Toadies catalog.

 

Reply to Mr. Fuck

Edited by Shoxthemonkey

And then there's this one Willie wrote after his drummer's wife passed away:

 

As great as Offspring's original is, FFDP did a damn good remake of it.  Reading the comments on either will choke you up.

 

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