January 23, 20241 yr This "ENM" thing seems to be getting its place in the sun, at least temporarily. Does anyone have any experience with this either first or second hand? The way I understand this ENM thing is that you have a legal spouse but you're actively dating other people? That seems exhausting. Now I have to maintain two relationships? Ugh. If it's a green light to fuck around, I guess that's less exhausting....? I don't judge people for what they do with their genitals so no judgement one way or the other. It just seems easier and less messy to get a pro if you want some green lighted side action. WSJ had a story the other day about these people infiltrating the big dating apps but they don't mention that they're "open" until the very end. They had another story today and the NYT has had a few pieces recently. I guess it's out of the shadows now. Thoughts from this august body?
January 23, 20241 yr 3 minutes ago, Aqua Buddha said: This "ENM" thing seems to be getting its place in the sun, at least temporarily. Does anyone have any experience with this either first or second hand? The way I understand this ENM thing is that you have a legal spouse but you're actively dating other people? That seems exhausting. Now I have to maintain two relationships? Ugh. If it's a green light to fuck around, I guess that's less exhausting....? I don't judge people for what they do with their genitals so no judgement one way or the other. It just seems easier and less messy to get a pro if you want some green lighted side action. WSJ had a story the other day about these people infiltrating the big dating apps but they don't mention that they're "open" until the very end. They had another story today and the NYT has had a few pieces recently. I guess it's out of the shadows now. Thoughts from this august body? ENM is for idiots.
January 23, 20241 yr It's called polyamory or ethical non-monogamy. Some people are really good at it. Most people are pretty shit at it.
January 23, 20241 yr 99.9% of open relationships end badly, as far as I can tell. Call it whatever the fuck you want, at somepoint, somebody in the love triangle decides they want to spend more time/be fucked by one of the two choices more than the other, and then things go south.
January 23, 20241 yr If you don’t want to be monogamous don’t get married. It’s really simple. That doesn’t mean swinging or playing together etc as that is sometimes intimate just in a different way from what I’ve gathered there are tons of people who are good at that and view it purely as sport/fun with their significant other. At least that’s how it reads from the posters here and some of the other people I’ve talked to who are into it. ENM is not that. That’s just fucking around on your spouse/partner and them having to be okay with it because reasons.
January 23, 20241 yr Popular Post In all honestly, I hardly have the time to disappoint one woman, much less two of them.
January 23, 20241 yr This thread needs to be in a different place, with more pictures and less words. If Reddit has taught me anything, it’s that a whole bunch of the people that engage in this aren’t someone I wanna see naked.
January 23, 20241 yr Popular Post I've known several married couples that "opened" their marriage up. All are now divorced.
January 23, 20241 yr 3 minutes ago, Jkwellborn said: This thread needs to be in a different place, with more pictures and less words. If Reddit has taught me anything, it’s that a whole bunch of the people that engage in this aren’t someone I wanna see naked. 21st century version of the nude beach.
January 23, 20241 yr 30 minutes ago, Brisketexan said: In all honestly, I hardly have the time to disappoint one woman, much less two of them. Story of my life.
January 23, 20241 yr Popular Post I’m talkin’ about sex, boy. I’m talkin about l’amour. I’m talkin’ me and Dot is swingers, as in to swing. I’m talkin’ what they call nowadays an open marriage….
January 23, 20241 yr 8 minutes ago, irishtexan said: I've known several married couples that "opened" their marriage up. All are now divorced. Unless you are a Mormon husband and knows the secret password for your wife (and she doesn't) to get into heaven, polygamy and open marriages usually don't work in the long term. My thinking on this. If I want to bang other women, and my wife wants to bang other men, then what the fuck is the point in my staying married and putting up with her bullshit. I'd rather get divorced, bang other women and not have to put up with her or any other woman's shit. Edited January 23, 20241 yr by crash_davis
January 23, 20241 yr Unless you are a Mormon husband and knows the secret password for your wife (and she doesn't) to get into heaven, polygamy and open marriages usually don't work in the long term. My thinking on this. If I want to bang other women, and my wife wants to bang other men, then what the fuck is the point in my staying married and putting up with her bullshit. I'd rather get divorced, bang other women and not have to put up with her or any other woman's shit.Yeah, I couldn’t see putting up with multiple women’s bullshit. The married pussy couldn’t be that good and all women are crazy. If you want strange, be single. Not sure how you plan on getting the tax break.
January 23, 20241 yr 2 hours ago, Aqua Buddha said: This "ENM" thing seems to be getting its place in the sun, at least temporarily. Does anyone have any experience with this either first or second hand? The way I understand this ENM thing is that you have a legal spouse but you're actively dating other people? That seems exhausting. Now I have to maintain two relationships? Ugh. If it's a green light to fuck around, I guess that's less exhausting....? I don't judge people for what they do with their genitals so no judgement one way or the other. It just seems easier and less messy to get a pro if you want some green lighted side action. WSJ had a story the other day about these people infiltrating the big dating apps but they don't mention that they're "open" until the very end. They had another story today and the NYT has had a few pieces recently. I guess it's out of the shadows now. Thoughts from this august body? Does your wife know you fuck hookers yet?
January 23, 20241 yr Popular Post 41 minutes ago, Jkwellborn said: This thread needs to be in a different place, with more pictures and less words. If Reddit has taught me anything, it’s that a whole bunch of the people that engage in this aren’t someone I wanna see naked. It's like that "Real Sex" show that used to be on HBO. It would cover various deviant topics, but the common thread was the participants were all fugly.
January 23, 20241 yr 1 minute ago, Pato del Muerto said: Ever been down ‘Cun? I suspect there's a difference between you and your wife getting freaky....maybe with another person or two added to said freakiness....on a vacation or somesuch, versus establishing a full-on relationship between one of you and another person. Sort of a "what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas" distinction.
January 23, 20241 yr 1 minute ago, Brisketexan said: I suspect there's a difference between you and your wife getting freaky....maybe with another person or two added to said freakiness....on a vacation or somesuch, versus establishing a full-on relationship between one of you and another person. Sort of a "what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas" distinction. Or down ‘Pulco?
January 23, 20241 yr Popular Post When living in Dubai, arab friend was telling me to convert to Islam. Said one of the biggest benefits was multiple wives. Before I could stop myself I asked "is this why men are so pissed off?" One is enough for sure.
January 23, 20241 yr Author 16 minutes ago, Chewbacca said: Does your wife know you fuck hookers yet? That, sir, is not ENM.
January 23, 20241 yr All they did was come up with a fancy and academic term for swingers. This practice isn't new. And if you browse profiles of the idiots that partake in this your not exactly finding Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders. The ones the WSJ dug up were swamp donkeys.
January 23, 20241 yr 11 minutes ago, Aqua Buddha said: That, sir, is not ENM. That, sir, is not an answer.
January 23, 20241 yr 1 minute ago, orange dream said: That, sir, is not an answer. That is exactly what I was going to type. Bravo.
January 23, 20241 yr In on page 1. This could become an epic thread and yeah, might need to get moved to make it more enjoyable/scary.
January 23, 20241 yr 1 minute ago, safe sex said: Jfc I forget just how many of y'all are boring straights At least the username shows what you advocate. I applaud you.
January 23, 20241 yr 34 minutes ago, safe sex said: Jfc I forget just how many of y'all are boring straights Don't forget our average skills in the bedroom!
January 23, 20241 yr 11 minutes ago, Covri said: Don't forget our average skills in the bedroom! Average? Braggart.
January 23, 20241 yr Regarding ENM, I've encountered more than a few of these out there and have heard "We are an ENM couple, I can arrange a call with my husband if you would like" more than a few times. There also more than a few with boyfriends as well. The only weird situation I ever encountered was getting a video call and being told about a wedding she was attending. She showed me her outfit and asked my opinion. Her boyfriend was in the background and she put him on camera and said "say hi to F250." Then I had a short conversation with him about the video game he was playing. Little awkward.
January 23, 20241 yr What video game was it? I had a neighbor that was a swinger when she was married. She wasn’t terrible looking, her ex husband was kind of a troll. I know another couple that supposedly swings. She was fine as hell back in the day.
January 23, 20241 yr 4 minutes ago, Jkwellborn said: What video game was it? I had a neighbor that was a swinger when she was married. She wasn’t terrible looking, her ex husband was kind of a troll. I know another couple that supposedly swings. She was fine as hell back in the day. League of Legends, I think.
January 23, 20241 yr 2 hours ago, irishtexan said: I've known several married couples that "opened" their marriage up. All are now divorced.
January 23, 20241 yr Popular Post Expectation: Open the relationship, mid-40s dad will be swimming in hot hippie and co-ed flesh. Reality: Open the relationship, mid-40s mom now swimming in younger penis while dad has another movie night with kids.
January 23, 20241 yr 3 minutes ago, 956 Worldwide said: Expectation: Open the relationship, mid-40s dad will be swimming in hot hippie and co-ed flesh. Reality: Open the relationship, mid-40s mom now swimming in younger penis while dad has another movie night with kids.
January 23, 20241 yr 1 hour ago, Covri said: Don't forget our average skills in the bedroom! It's not that I'm average. It's that I just don't care.
January 23, 20241 yr Popular Post 5 hours ago, immamac said: ENM is for idiots. You're thinking of EDM
January 23, 20241 yr 53 minutes ago, F250 said: League of Legends, I think. If you were going to ask me to guess the game a cuck is really into, that would be the one....
January 23, 20241 yr 2 hours ago, Pato del Muerto said: Ever been down ‘Cun? 2 hours ago, Pato del Muerto said: Or down ‘Pulco? #slitslam2017 Dammit McMurray, I had something for this! You stay quiet, I'll go! I know some folks that openly practice this and I know some folks who are doing it on the sly. With consenting folks and a clean bill of health, I say---have at it. Not for me only because the thought of talking to another couple about anything other than traffic or the weather makes my fucking teeth hurt. But as Wayne once said, "I ain't one of ya, but I guess you're here to stay..."
January 23, 20241 yr Author 2 hours ago, orange dream said: That, sir, is not an answer. No, I haven, and no, it’s not. That was one of my original points. If you’re getting the green light or whatever, go with a high end pro. Why date and have a girlfriend or something?
January 23, 20241 yr 15 minutes ago, Aqua Buddha said: No, I haven, and no, it’s not. That was one of my original points. If you’re getting the green light or whatever, go with a high end pro. Why date and have a girlfriend or something? Do they accept Green Stamps or Best Buy Coupons?
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