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I just became aware of the app itself and now today I’m seeing a catastrophic security breach. 
 

TLDR: There is a “woman only” app that allows women to upload photos of men, reverse image search and run background checks, and share any “red flags” or “green flags” anonymously. It suffered a security breach and now there are tons of user selfies and PII of the women on 4chan. 
 

https://www.cnet.com/tech/services-and-software/tea-app-breach-exposes-72000-selfies-id-photos-and-other-user-images/
 

My thoughts here are pretty mixed. No one should have their data stolen and put on 4Chan. 

I see the app itself as incredibly morally questionable. It promises that men are not allowed on the site, cannot search for what is there about them, and allows users to anonymously share information about men they have dated.

I have zero qualms about an easy way to search public databases and return law enforcement info, restraining orders, etc.  I’m a little less comfortable with allowing anonymous allegations of genuinely threatening behavior or dangerous behavior with no record— stalking, domestic violence, threats, etc. Or verified catfishes or scammers. 

I see it as a gross violation of basic privacy to allow people to anonymously share their gripes about a date or ex with no verification and no way for the individual to reclama or even know what is being said about them. 

And I think that the relationship between the sexes is cooked at this point. Basically open hostilities. We are going the way of South Korea.

I'm a not knower about the war of the sexes in South Korea. Or is that a reference to the cease fire but no real end of the war?

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I have no issue with it. Men should stop being gross, creepy, abusive, etc and maybe this wouldn’t happen. Maybe they’ll pick it up on it after they get rejected for dates by women who found their behavior via other women who dealt with it already 

Women gotta look out for each other bc ain’t nobody looking out for them otherwise 

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3 minutes ago, ftf82 said:

I'm a not knower about the war of the sexes in South Korea. Or is that a reference to the cease fire but no real end of the war?

South Korea has like a .72 total fertility rate and is basically in relationship free-fall. 
 

I think it’s the anonymous part and no way to respond that gets me.  Some of the comments on the site is stuff like “he took me on a cheap date, waste of time” or “pretended to be interested but didn’t ask me out a second time.” 

That stuff is just dating pitfalls. You should have to put your name to stuff like that. I can see anonymous if it’s actually a safety thing. 

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8 minutes ago, Js1 said:

I have no issue with it. Men should stop being gross, creepy, abusive, etc and maybe this wouldn’t happen. Maybe they’ll pick it up on it after they get rejected for dates by women who found their behavior via other women who dealt with it already 

Women gotta look out for each other bc ain’t nobody looking out for them otherwise 

The huge pitfall here is the requirement that the reporter be honest and unbiased while using the Internet.  Should also point out that the user verification process of selfies and DL is nothing close to bulletproof. 
 

It almost certainly illegal under EU data protection and privacy laws (and isnt available there). 

4 minutes ago, 956 Worldwide said:

I think it’s the anonymous part and no way to respond that gets me.  Some of the comments on the site is stuff like “he took me on a cheap date, waste of time” or “pretended to be interested but didn’t ask me out a second time.” 

Those are just sour grapes. There should at least be moderation to remove those comments

Whats to stop a jilted female crying wolf?

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Man, I am so glad my dating years were in the mid 80s to early 90s. All we had to worry about back then was AIDS and runaway pubic hair.

1 hour ago, Js1 said:

Those are just sour grapes. There should at least be moderation to remove those comments

You know damn good and well there will be a shit ton of bitching with zero fact checking or moderation. None. The more vitriolic and hostile the more engagement it will get on the app. True, fact checking and reality will not be factored in, at all. There will also be fakes and catfish galore. Men posing as women to shit on a guy dating someone he's interested in. Women who enjoy watching the world burn and shit on guys who they never even had an actual date with just connected online. To think for even a second that men are in any way grosser, disgusting or shitty in the dating world than men is simply naive or uniformed. I'm speaking specifically of dating behavior, NOT criminal behavior. Perhaps someone who doesn't even date women. 😉

44 minutes ago, huge said:

Whats to stop a jilted female crying wolf?

Nothing. These things already exist on Facebook groups and elsewhere. I've got a goodly amount of female friends active in the dating world. Amusingly, I went on dates with quiet a few. We enjoyed each other's company but zero chemistry romantically. We still grab food or go out dutch. 

15 minutes ago, BurntEyes said:

Amusingly, I went on dates with quiet a few

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So does Nicole. 

17 minutes ago, Gatorubet said:

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So does Nicole. 

Well, it's possible Nicole and I went on a date too. We didn't, but it's possible. 

3 minutes ago, NotActuallyALonghorn said:

You're still posting here, so it's not likely. 

Possible != likely 

But.. maybe we found similar interests and became platonic friends instead. Ever think of that buddy? 

23 minutes ago, troph said:

So I met this guy, went on a couple of dates, seemed nice enough, he kept talking about laying pipe with all these women I knew, I thought he was a plumber, no he just couldn’t stop talking about laying pipe. Steve Shank was his name I think, or something like that. Beware. 

Beware of all of the f'n delicious vittles available at the casa de Shank....those lbs will sneak up ya. 

So the 4chan incels literally spilled the tea on these 1s and 2s who posted their IDs and selfies onto this dumb gossip app?

43 minutes ago, troph said:

So I met this guy, went on a couple of dates, seemed nice enough, he kept talking about laying pipe with all these women I knew, I thought he was a plumber, no he just couldn’t stop talking about laying pipe. Steve Shank was his name I think, or something like that. Beware. 

You sure he wasn’t Mario?

1 hour ago, troph said:

So I met this guy, went on a couple of dates, seemed nice enough, he kept talking about laying pipe with all these women I knew, I thought he was a plumber, no he just couldn’t stop talking about laying pipe. Steve Shank was his name I think, or something like that. Beware. 

You must make a shitty sandwich.

4 hours ago, 956 Worldwide said:

I think it’s the anonymous part and no way to respond that gets me.  Some of the comments on the site is stuff like “he took me on a cheap date, waste of time” or “pretended to be interested but didn’t ask me out a second time.” 

That stuff is just dating pitfalls. You should have to put your name to stuff like that. I can see anonymous if it’s actually a safety thing. 

Are you new to the Internet, Mr. Worldwide?

Is there an app where men can post anonymously about the sexual habits of women that are uploaded, that women can’t access?  

5 hours ago, Js1 said:

I have no issue with it. Men should stop being gross, creepy, abusive, etc and maybe this wouldn’t happen. Maybe they’ll pick it up on it after they get rejected for dates by women who found their behavior via other women who dealt with it already 

Women gotta look out for each other bc ain’t nobody looking out for them otherwise 

This is an incredibly naive take.

As a father of both a son and daughter I agree that there should be an easy way to access criminal records to protect women but this site is an online slander forum that gives men no ability to correct or remove verifiable false information. I don’t agree with the hack, but understand why people may have had strong negative feelings about a site like this which sounds like it would violate Europe/California data privacy protection laws.

It sounds like they fucked around and found out. 

4 hours ago, troph said:

So I met this guy, went on a couple of dates, seemed nice enough, he kept talking about laying pipe with all these women I knew, I thought he was a plumber, no he just couldn’t stop talking about laying pipe. Steve Shank was his name I think, or something like that. Beware. 

He didn’t happen to work at Denny’s did he and ask you to send send him a pic of your body? If so, how was the naoch? 

10 hours ago, troph said:

So I met this guy, went on a couple of dates, seemed nice enough, he kept talking about laying pipe with all these women I knew, I thought he was a plumber, no he just couldn’t stop talking about laying pipe. Steve Shank was his name I think, or something like that. Beware. 

He sounds robust.

12 hours ago, NotActuallyALonghorn said:

Like late night swimsuit in shady lakes?

No sir, we share a love of evening lakeside "work outs" that are 100% platonic. Just ask @Nicole44 Hell, there are witnesses of one foray at an OUsux Surly happy hour. 

11 hours ago, troph said:

So I met this guy, went on a couple of dates, seemed nice enough, he kept talking about laying pipe with all these women I knew, I thought he was a plumber, no he just couldn’t stop talking about laying pipe. Steve Shank was his name I think, or something like that. Beware. 

I have a friend Jade who may have dated the same creep!  Did he only take you to Deli counters and sandwich shops, and only drink Bud Lite?   If so it is the same creep.

 

Jade says to tell him to text her.

15 hours ago, 956 Worldwide said:

I see the app itself as incredibly morally questionable. It promises that men are not allowed on the site, cannot search for what is there about them, and allows users to anonymously share information about men they have dated.

I kinda feel the same way about this as I do the white's only community of racists that have sequestered themselves into a compound in the middle of no-where Arkansas.

WHAT!?  You are saying I could be wrongfully slandered and removed from the pool of potential mates for women who would use an app to slander men they've dated?

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5 hours ago, Steel Shank said:

He sounds robust.

vibrant!

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My first girlfriend got interested in me because her friends hated me.

(She should have listened to her friends.)

Point being, it doesn't matter what women say to warn each other. Prison record? Dudes IN prison have pen pals counting off the days. The worse crime the better.

Also, I notice that drivers license map includes zero women in Mexico. A single dude who hasn't breezed through Mexico isn't even trying.

This app could have been helpful for my sister, who dated a real piece of shit who broke her arm last year. After it became "public" she heard from some of his exes. 

If you're a dude who has girls who are friends, you would easily find out if someone posted about you on there. If you're a pos who has no girl friends, well I guess you'd be SOL.

So whenever some of the funnier stories and reports get around, publish them here for the lulz.

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