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I'm a little jealous of y'all. My dad died 43 years ago and I never got to be with him as he aged. (Mom died 50 years ago and it sucks even more). And my batshit crazy stepmother lived to be 94 but luckily in another state.

I watched my father in law go through it though. I guess we were fortunate that he lost his ability to drive pretty quickly and knew it, so there wasn't any pushback. However what killed him was the ability to do things. He worked on a/c's all his life and it killed him when he had to pay someone to do it for him. I told him the reason he busted his butt when he was young so that he could pay someone to do the things he could no longer do. He knew it was true but it was still rough. I just hope if/when I get there, I remember to go easy on my kids. 

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I love the last series of posts; good on y'all.

I did take care of my dad’s recreational needs, taking him fishing once weekly, weather permitting, for the last 13 years of his life. The Saturday prior to his death, I was talking about how we were going to engineer him getting into and out of the boat on our next trip, and he said, “Son, your stepmom has moved mountains keeping me alive lately. You really think I'm going to just announce that I'm going fishing?”

So now I get the opportunity to shuttle mom to MD Anderson for chemo and all the corresponding visits. My sister put her life in MN on pause, flew in, and handled the first 1/2; now it's my turn.

Like Brisket, my mom lives 5 minutes from me, and I'm fortunate that I can drop food off, take care of the chores, and flush her chemo picc line every day.

My wife and her mother (94) are in the winding down process now.  My MIL is confused about stuff, was talking to my wife yesterday thinking she was her oldest friend and had to be reminded who she was talking to. Her mother is stubborn and proud and so is resistant to being helped but is getting where she won’t take her medication or eat regularly. 

14 hours ago, BearSchlong said:

 I was talking about how we were going to engineer him getting into and out of the boat on our next trip, and he said, “Son, your stepmom has moved mountains keeping me alive lately. You really think I'm going to just announce that I'm going fishing?”
 

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well, my wife is now an orphan at 54 years old.  Her mom passed away yesterday less than a week after my wife's dad passed. She was ailing too and hung on to see her husband pass, then she fell asleep that night and woke up only occasionally to eat ice cream. She passed very peacefully yesterday afternoon. She was a great mom, and an officer's wife following her husband from Crane, Texas to the military where she spent most of her time in San Diego or DC finishing up back in Texas in College Station. She was often left alone as her husband traveled for the Country and raised three daughters right by the looks of how dutiful and agreeable they were together in the final months of their parents' life.

They will be buried together in San Antonio in a military funeral.

Geez that is rough. Positive vibes sent y’all’s way. There is something poetic about that ending, but I'm sure it feels like a tragedy right now.

This morning I shaved my mom’s head. She had about 15% of her normal mane left after 3 rounds of chemo so I got out my norelco one touch and finished the job. I'm calling her Captain Picard now. But she has a wig that evokes Jane Fonda.

Also, I have found my one true love, the most beautiful raven-haired-tattood latina goddess-woman-nurse I have ever encountered. Visit the waiting room on the 2nd floor of the Mays building at MD Anderson if you want to share my infatuation.

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Also appropriate for the sugar babies thread.

Woke up last Friday with a sore right calf.  Did some squats, lunges and deadlifts the night before, so I assumed it was a strained muscle.  Pain came and went throughout the weekend while I was duck hunting and wade fishing down at the coast, but nothing major.  It got worse Sunday overnight and kind of culminated with very acute pain Monday morning, then subsided.  I elevated it, iced it, and took some Ibuprofen, then went to work.  I was thinking maybe gout, but wasn't sure since it was more in the muscle than a joint.  The pain ebbed and flowed throughout the week, and it was a little swollen and slightly warm to the touch, so I made a doctor's appointment this morning.  The doctor said he thought it was a muscle strain and “a less than 1% chance it’s a clot, but let’s do blood work to rule it out.”  Guess I’m the lucky 1%.  They ordered a stat ultrasound, and I was able to get one at 4 PM today.  

For the record, I just turned 45.  I'm very active and never sick.  Work out 3-4 times per week including running 10-15 miles per week.  No traumatic injuries.  No surgery.  A tad overweight, and probably drink more than I should, but normal BP, don't smoke, and eat pretty clean.  BUT, I had what I think was covid in late December.  That's the only thing I can think of that may have caused it.  

It's hell getting old. 

1 hour ago, Spaulding Smails said:

For the record, I just turned 45.

...

It's hell getting old. 

 

Wrong thread. Maybe try "Am I Middle-aged Yet?" 

If it doesn't exist, youb should start it.

 

Woke up last Friday with a sore right calf.  Did some squats, lunges and deadlifts the night before, so I assumed it was a strained muscle.  Pain came and went throughout the weekend while I was duck hunting and wade fishing down at the coast, but nothing major.  It got worse Sunday overnight and kind of culminated with very acute pain Monday morning, then subsided.  I elevated it, iced it, and took some Ibuprofen, then went to work.  I was thinking maybe gout, but wasn't sure since it was more in the muscle than a joint.  The pain ebbed and flowed throughout the week, and it was a little swollen and slightly warm to the touch, so I made a doctor's appointment this morning.  The doctor said he thought it was a muscle strain and “a less than 1% chance it’s a clot, but let’s do blood work to rule it out.”  Guess I’m the lucky 1%.  They ordered a stat ultrasound, and I was able to get one at 4 PM today.  
For the record, I just turned 45.  I'm very active and never sick.  Work out 3-4 times per week including running 10-15 miles per week.  No traumatic injuries.  No surgery.  A tad overweight, and probably drink more than I should, but normal BP, don't smoke, and eat pretty clean.  BUT, I had what I think was covid in late December.  That's the only thing I can think of that may have caused it.  
It's hell getting old. 

45 old? Just wait young whippersnapper.

Some of these posts aren't really living up the the "Lulz"page they're posted on, but I do appreciate the stories.

 

That being said, I thought I pulled my groin the other day getting into my wife's car, so there's that...

 

1 hour ago, Tylerocks said:

That being said, I thought I pulled my groin the other day getting into my wife's car, so there's that...


Riding in my wife’s car right now. Hits close to home. Damn thing is like a small church: no ballroom.

Bout need a crane to get off the ground and out of it too. 

So I have self-diagnosed to have cubital tunnel syndrome. There is a dull pain in my right elbow when I wake up. After stretching it out and trying to keep my arm straight during the day, the ache goes away. There isn't any tingling or numbness, just a low grade pain. Looks like I will need to wear a brace when I go to bed...
 

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When you sleep with your elbow bent, the ulnar nerve gets compressed in the cubital tunnel, causing symptoms to worsen overnight and be most noticeable upon waking up. 

 

Last Wednesday of the month, time for the monthly needle in the eyeballs for that AMD shit. Been doing this for nine years now, gettin' pretty damn tired of it... although it's definitely better than being completely blind, fer sher. 

16 hours ago, NeverMarryAStripper said:

I don't know what any of that means, but I feel for you

Which part is eluding you... "needle" or "eyeballs"? 

Actually, it's only bad for the first day. Overnight it just fades to being sore. The actual needle stick isn't painful - not much more so than any other hypo. After an hour, when the anesthetic wears off, it's like having a hair in the eye, but I use a bandana headband as an eye-patch, keeps the eye shut, and it's more annoying than painful. It's also inconvenient, having basically no depth perception at all. 

On 1/30/2025 at 6:09 PM, Tex Long said:

Actually, it's only bad for the first day. Overnight it just fades to being sore. The actual needle stick isn't painful - not much more so than any other hypo. After an hour, when the anesthetic wears off, it's like having a hair in the eye, but I use a bandana headband as an eye-patch, keeps the eye shut, and it's more annoying than painful. It's also inconvenient, having basically no depth perception at all. 

How long do you wait before having the other eye done? (Assume you don’t have both done at the same time)

3 hours ago, CycleTex87 said:

How long do you wait before having the other eye done? (Assume you don’t have both done at the same time)

Occasionally, both. Usually alternating, monthly. Just the right one for several years until the left went into wet AMD. 

6 hours ago, Underdog said:

In bed asleep before 8 last night. 

Well, it's still Winter, so it's dark already...

I didn't know where to put this. I saw it on FB, but it's not dumbass. The guy raised sheep, so I thought aggy, but he's not screwing them so I didn't put it there. Since he was old and an insomniac and the first thing he did when he finished was go to the bathroom, I decided to put it here. In 1983 a 61 yo Australian sheepherder won a 544 mile ultramarathon. He did it because he accidentally woke up early after the first day and then proceeded to run for 4+ days straight without sleep. He showed up to the race in his overalls and muck boots, but switched to a pair of pants and a loaner pair of shoes. And he shuffled instead of running.         

https://allthatsinteresting.com/cliff-young   

 

16 minutes ago, Crapinon said:

I didn't know where to put this. I saw it on FB, but it's not dumbass. The guy raised sheep, so I thought aggy, but he's not screwing them so I didn't put it there. Since he was old and an insomniac and the first thing he did when he finished was go to the bathroom, I decided to put it here. In 1983 a 61 yo Australian sheepherder won a 544 mile ultramarathon. He did it because he accidentally woke up early after the first day and then proceeded to run for 4+ days straight without sleep. He showed up to the race in his overalls and muck boots, but switched to a pair of pants and a loaner pair of shoes. And he shuffled instead of running.         

https://allthatsinteresting.com/cliff-young   

 

He’s an awesome story. Completely changed ultrarunning. Ran a bunch more too. 

56 minutes ago, Brisketexan said:


Good luck. Prepare to see your crotch hideously bruised for a month (that’s where they go in).

Thanks, but I’ve had 4 stent implant procedures and an aortic valve replacement that all went in through that section of femoral artery over the past 25 years. 
It probably looks like a pin cushion. 
2nd time in 2003 produced the worst bruise - from my right knee up to the belly button and to the small of the back. That’s when the nurses had to use their hand pressure for at least 30 minutes to help it clot. 
Those were very awkward conversations. 
The newfangled “plugs” that seal it upare a godsend.

My retired police officer nephew in the Kerrville area had his ablation done Tuesday in San Antonio. His retirement hobby is bbq catering, and he is serving 150-200 people at a Super Bowl party in Kerrville today.

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Thanks, but I’ve had 4 stent implant procedures and an aortic valve replacement that all went in through that section of femoral artery over the past 25 years. 
It probably looks like a pin cushion. 
2nd time in 2003 produced the worst bruise - from my right knee up to the belly button and to the small of the back. That’s when the nurses had to use their hand pressure for at least 30 minutes to help it clot. 
Those were very awkward conversations. 
The newfangled “plugs” that seal it upare a godsend.
My retired police officer nephew in the Kerrville area had his ablation done Tuesday in San Antonio. His retirement hobby is bbq catering, and he is serving 150-200 people at a Super Bowl party in Kerrville today.

I went to a black tie event 5 days after mine. I managed…but it wore me out.

Anybody old enough to get injured getting a blow job? That’s when you know you’re old.

I’m checking in.

14 hours ago, Handcruser said:

Anybody old enough to get injured getting a blow job? That’s when you know you’re old.

I’m checking in.

Who did you injure?

1 hour ago, Tex Long said:

x, x, x, x

fify That did not age well.

 

Woke up Saturday and after getting dressed, I felt like I had a burr in my shirt or something. Nothing there but the skin under my arm felt irritated. Fast forward to today, Yeah, I have shingles. Fuck.

To add insult to injury, I got a weird call today, supposedly from my credit union, that my card had been compromised. Something felt off, so I hung up and called my CU and they said nothing was up on their end and that they didn't call me. Now I have to go get a new debit card. FUCK.

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Had a trans esophageal echocardiogram scan this morning to check for blood clots prior to my ablation procedure early tomorrow in Temple (a one hour drive north of us).
The TEE is like a colonoscopy, except in the other end……and without the “prep”.
Had a very nice 45 minute nap during the procedure.
Oldest son will be driving us up there this afternoon since I can’t drive after this morning’s anesthesia, and Mrs. Brat has not driven on an expressway or Interstate highway since 2013.
Son’s wife will follow us to bring him back home. We’ll have our car to drive back & forth from the hotel to the hospital tomorrow.
We’ll repeat the return transportation Friday.

 

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I had a camera and various electronics shoved down the gullet about 20 years back. According to the quacks, you aren't napping, you're mostly semi-awake and cooperating, but memory storage is turned off. The waking up part is the drugs wearing off and you start remembering the last few minutes. I think that was the gist of it, but my memory is hazy on that...

Looks like your pulse ox monitor is clipped on your Surly clicking finger.  You need to get that moved.

Really hoping your ablation brings relief.  It did for my mom, and really gave her new energy as it regulated her afib, and took her off of the afib medicine that really made her sluggish.  

Make sure to ask for your spongebath before they destroy your groin with the catheter.  

They ran a camera down my throat about 4 years ago to look at some stuff. I want to say I was awake but I honestly don't remember so I must have been out.

I had an EGD just a few months ago. Had a nice propofol nap just like when they do a colonoscopy. Totally out. Nice drugs without having to do all the prep. 

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1 hour ago, Armybrat said:

Had a trans esophageal echocardiogram scan this morning to check for blood clots prior to my ablation procedure early tomorrow in Temple (a one hour drive north of us).
The TEE is like a colonoscopy, except in the other end……and without the “prep”.
Had a very nice 45 minute nap during the procedure.
Oldest son will be driving us up there this afternoon since I can’t drive after this morning’s anesthesia, and Mrs. Brat has not driven on an expressway or Interstate highway since 2013.
Son’s wife will follow us to bring him back home. We’ll have our car to drive back & forth from the hotel to the hospital tomorrow.
We’ll repeat the return transportation Friday.

 

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On 2/1/2025 at 4:09 AM, Underdog said:

In bed asleep before 8 last night. 

Wait until it's before 7 grrrrr

Slipped on a patch of black ice the other while turning a corner and fell on my side. It happened so goddamned fast i couldnt even process how i braced/reacted to the fall. 

I’d taken wilder spills in my 20s, doing endos without a helmet, smacking into trees on mountain bikes, etc, without nary a scratch. 

This damn fall put my arm out of commission for 2 weeks and this is how the bruising showed at the end of that period. 

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2 hours ago, SHOOTER12 said:

Wait until it's before 7 grrrrr

Don't threaten me with a good time. 

Well, my good time in this hospital is costing about $338/minute for a 6 hour stay.

 

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